Our culture embraces intelligence and beauty.  It is a hard fact of the world we live in.  We “fit” into specific social circles or we don’t.  You might say that you don’t care but that would be a lie.  We all want to be admired and respected.  The formula for good social form at any level is an easy one;

love and respect yourself.

Demonstrate it by dressing and speaking as though you do.  People make instant judgements based on these elements.  If you dress like a slob, you will be viewed as such.  If you speak idiotically, you will be viewed as such.  I am not saying you need to become someone you are not. I am saying that you need to be the best you can be to achieve the highest possibility for success.

SO…

Clean up your language skills.  PLEASE stop speaking as though you were a 14 year-old at the mall!  You don’t know how?  READ. Read a lot and then read some more.  Don’t re-gift the Word-of-the-Day calendar you received last Christmas – use it!

Observe those that perorate (look it up) with dignity and command the attention of others POSITIVELY. This doesn’t include mimicking the women on The Bachelor or The Bachelorette.  A solid short term goal is to avoid sounding as though you were a Valley Girl who just left a three-day fraternity kegger.

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You are a WINNER not a WIENER.

K. Martini